Finding each other is just the beginning
Building a healthy relationship takes more than just finding the right person. It takes understanding yourselves, learning how to navigate your differences, and intentionally creating the kind of connection you both need.
Whether you're stepping into something new or enhancing a relationship you've had for years, your relationship can become a source of strength, comfort, and fulfillment throughout the changes life brings.
What Brings Couples to Coaching?
You don't have to wait until something is wrong to invest in your relationship. Sometimes it's about creating something new, sometimes it's about navigating life's changes together, and sometimes it's about working through the things that keep getting in your way.
You’re starting something new
You're building a relationship after divorce or past relationship challenges, and you both want this time to be different. You're ready to understand what hasn't worked before and create a healthier foundation together.
You’re navigating a new chapter of life
Marriage, parenting, becoming empty nesters, or retirement can bring significant changes to your lives and your relationship. You want to understand how those changes are affecting each of you, stay connected, and find new ways of growing together.
You don’t want this to become your norm
Things aren't bad between you, but they're not quite what you'd hoped for either. You're noticing little changes in how you connect, communicate, or enjoy each other, and you don't want those changes to become more ingrained.
No matter what brings you here, relationship coaching begins with something important:
you're both willing to look at yourselves, understand one another, and take an active role in creating the relationship you want.
UNDERSTANDING WHAT’S GOING ON
There’s more happening than you realize
You can both want a healthy, connected relationship and still find yourselves reacting to each other in ways that create distance.
You see, neither of you entered this relationship with a blank slate. You each bring your own experiences, perspectives, and automatic ways of responding into the relationship, even when you're trying hard to do things differently.
And what happens within each of you affects what happens between you.
A DIFFERENT WAY FORWARD
You can co-create something different
The patterns you bring into your relationship don't have to determine its future.
In relationship coaching, we slow things down enough to understand what's happening within each of you and between you. Then, through personalized coaching and guided processes, we work through what's driving those dynamics so you can begin connecting and relating differently.
Your Relationship Is Worth Investing In
Love is an important part of a healthy relationship, but it doesn't automatically teach you how to navigate all the things that come with sharing your life with someone.
You continue learning new skills throughout your career, as a parent, and in so many other parts of your life. Yet when it comes to your relationship, one of the biggest influences on how your day-to-day life feels, that same intention to keep growing often gets overlooked.
So what if you approached relationships differently?
You don't have to wait until small frustrations become bigger problems. You can learn to understand each other better, work through what's getting in the way, and strengthen the connection that brought you together in the first place.
“My partner and I see Jen for couples' coaching and we have been so happy with our sessions!
Jen is warm, incredibly easy to talk to, and never makes the work feel clinical or intimidating. I’d absolutely recommend her to any couple—not just couples who are struggling, but anyone who wants to communicate better, feel more connected, and build a healthier relationship together.”
Katie
What Makes Coaching With Jen Different?
Certified Relationship Coach
Certified Integrative Health Coach
No taking sides or assigning blame
Both partners have space to be heard and understood. We're not looking for who's right or wrong, we're looking at what's happening between you and how you can move forward together.Personalized coaching with a clear structure
We work with real situations from your lives, using specific, guided processes to help you navigate sticky spots, step out of your typical interactions, and develop new ways of understanding, communicating, and connecting. Along the way, you build skills that help you relate to one another more effectively. And I adapt the work we do to what your specific relationship needs.Looking beneath the surface
As a Certified Relationship Coach and Certified Integrative Health Coach, I bring specialized training in relationships, applied neuroscience, and mindfulness to our work. We don't just focus on what you're disagreeing about, we explore what's driving your reactions and work to shift the patterns beneath them.Individual attention when it's helpful
While most sessions are together, sometimes it's beneficial to work with each partner individually to move through something that's difficult to address together. We then bring relevant insights back into our shared work, always keeping the relationship at the center.Building a strong foundation
Before becoming a coach, I worked as a pediatric physical therapist in early intervention, helping children and families address challenges early to influence future outcomes. I bring that same perspective to relationship coaching, helping couples establish healthier ways of relating before difficulties become deeply ingrained.
FROM MY OWN RELATIONSHIP
My husband and I are both problem solvers, but we approach problems very differently. He's technical and loves solving problems with things. I'm more relational and love solving problems with people.
It's a great reminder that even two people who have a lot in common can see situations, approach challenges, and make sense of the world in completely different ways.
When our approaches complement each other, we're like the Wonder Twins (Super Friends, anyone?), combining our different strengths to create something better than either of us could on our own. And when they clash? We've had to learn how to work through those differences, too.
What Couples Are Saying
“My favorite part of the coaching process is being able to practice the tools and teachings provided. The structure has been very helpful. And I like that you don't take sides, you listen, and work to advance the conversations and move forward. You're professional, friendly, and personable, and you adjust to our styles.”
Mike
“We are so grateful for the insight, guidance, and wisdom Jen shared with us. She has a gift for helping couples gain a deeper understanding of one another and strengthen their relationship. Our time with her was incredibly valuable, and we highly recommend her to any couple looking to grow closer and build a stronger marriage.”
Mary Kay
“I found that my spouse has become more open to deeper and meaningful conversations and has become more compassionate towards seeing where I come from which makes me feel more heard, loved and accepted. And adding meeting 1-1 helped me work on the aspects of my own growth that I can bring towards our relationship as well.”
Audrey
Questions About Relationship Coaching
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I work with couples who are married or in committed relationships, including both heterosexual and same-sex couples. Some are building a new relationship, others are navigating life transitions, and some want to work through challenges before they become bigger problems.
What matters most is that both partners are willing to participate, understand themselves and each other more fully, and take an active role in creating a healthier, more fulfilling relationship together.
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We work with real situations from your relationship, using guided breathwork, conversations and specific processes to help you better understand yourselves and each other.
We might work through a conversation that keeps getting frustrating, explore ways to feel more supported, or build skills that make everyday life together feel more connected and enjoyable. Your work is personalized to what your relationship needs.
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Not at all. You might be building a new relationship, navigating a new stage of life, or noticing changes you'd like to address early. You don't have to wait until something feels seriously wrong to invest in your relationship.
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Often, yes, but nothing that should feel like another big obligation. Parts of our work will naturally carry over into day to day life. And I will often suggest brief connection activities that build on what we're doing together.
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Coaching is a good fit when both partners want to participate, are willing to look at their own contributions, and want to create healthier ways of relating.
If you're experiencing significant relationship distress or need therapeutic support, couples therapy may be more appropriate.
Our complimentary consultation helps us explore the best fit.
What If You Started With One Conversation?
Every relationship is different, and there's no one-size-fits-all path to creating a healthier one.
I offer a complimentary 45-minute consultation where we can talk about your relationship, what you're hoping to create together, and whether my coaching approach feels like a good fit for both of you.
Available in my Wilmington, NC office or virtually