You’re not stuck because you haven’t tried hard enough
You're someone who figures things out
You show up
You problem solve
You make things happen for everyone and everything else
But in certain places, you keep hitting the same wall
Maybe it shows up as:
Stress that won't let go, even when things are relatively okay
Getting stuck in your head and replaying the same thoughts on a loop
A reaction you wish you could take back
A pattern in a relationship that keeps surfacing no matter what you try
A habit that keeps returning
Or just a quiet sense that something feels off and you can't quite name what it is
And still you keep going, even if it feels like it's all falling apart.
You know something needs to shift, but no matter how hard you try, it just hasn't happened. Yet.
You haven't just been
sitting around
wishing it would get better.
You've tried things.
Maybe you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, and followed the programs everyone else swears by. You've made promises to yourself, started over time and time again, and pushed harder when you thought it was the only way. You might have even tried therapy, journaling, or some version of "I just need to be better about this."
And some of it helped...for a while. But then life got busy and the frustration came back. Or you found yourself in the same exact moment you were trying to avoid, and wondered how you got there again.
Contrary to what you've been taught, that's not a willpower problem. It's not a motivation problem. And it's not a sign that you're someone who can't change.
It just means these approaches weren't designed for how you actually change.
Here's what's really going on
The situation you're dealing with usually isn't the actual problem.
The real challenge is what's happening inside of you because of it:
The thoughts that spiral
The emotions that take over
The actions that play on repeat
All of this starts in your nervous system.
When you encounter situations that on some level feel similar, especially the stressful or emotionally charged ones, your nervous system taps into pre-programmed responses.
At the same time, your mind is constantly interpreting what's happening around you, filtering it through your past experiences, your beliefs, and what you've come to expect.
It creates stories about what things mean and about what might happen next.
Those stories can keep you stuck in a loop, reinforcing the same thoughts, the same feelings, and the same responses, creating patterns you can't escape.
And no amount of trying harder changes an automatic pattern. That's why you can know exactly what you want to do differently, and still find yourself doing the same thing yet again.
This is where coaching comes in
We work together to effectively understand you: who you really are, how you're wired, what you're actually capable of when the unhelpful patterns aren't running on autopilot.
In our coaching sessions, you bring whatever is getting in your way. We get a clearer picture of what's really happening. And then I guide you to work through it and create new, helpful patterns.
My approach to coaching is rooted in neuroscience and mindfulness to help you understand what's driving your patterns and learn to reprogram them.
The goal isn't to add more to your already full plate, it's to change how you relate to what's already there.
And the results in your life start to look different, without you having to force it.
When the patterns shift, here's what you gain
Clarity
Clearly see what you want in life and move towards it. Stop spinning your wheels and make actual, sustainable progress.
Confidence
Be comfortable with who you really are, how your brain is wired, and what works for you. Learn to trust this knowledge and develop your intuition to use as your guide.
Connection
Connect to your true self, to the important people and things in your life, and to where your life is headed.
Calm
Develop mindful awareness and self compassion, which quiets your self-doubt and allows peace to permeate your life.
Here’s what clients say about their experience
“"Wow! What a life changing experience.
When I started coaching, I knew it worked for others, but I was 5% convinced that it would work for me. I'm just not into rah rah, you know. Now I'm at 200%.
Jen directed me with grace and understanding and celebrated wins!! It was finally a chance to overcome a struggle that I've tried to do myself but just couldn't."
~ Mandie
“Jen and I started meeting after a big unfortunate life event hit me hard.
She helped me put things into perspective and gave me plenty of validations and affirmations along the way. She helped me rewrite the way I thought about things and how I saw myself.
I could not recommend her enough. I'd be in a much different place without this experience!"
~ Bryce
Start With a Complimentary Consultation
Coaching changed my life, and I’ve heard the same thing from so many of my clients. But finding the right coach for you is a big part of that change. That’s why I offer a complimentary time for us to connect before working together.
Coaching is often ‘the great unknown’, so this is time to:
• feel what my coaching environment is like
• learn more about coaching and how it differs from other approaches
• have a safe place to share what you’re thinking and getting stuck in
• ask any questions you may have
There’s no pressure or expectation following this consultation. It’s simply a chance for us to connect and see if working together feels like the right fit.
Let’s Get Started
Answers to Common Questions About Coaching
-
Both.
We can meet in my relaxed, plant-filled office in Wilmington, North Carolina, or connect remotely by phone or Zoom from wherever you are.
Whether you’re sitting across from me in my office or connecting from your own space, the coaching process works the same way.
-
I work with solution-oriented adults who feel stuck in some area of their lives, whether personally, professionally, or in their relationships.
Most clients come to me for one of two reasons:
•something has shifted and they’re trying to find their footing again or •they’ve noticed the same frustrations showing up over and over and they’re ready for something to change.
What they usually need isn’t more advice or another thing to try.
They need non-judgmental guidance to untangle what’s happening, understand themselves and situations differently, and gain new skill sets to move themselves forward.
-
That’s really up to you.
Some clients come for a specific season and stay a few sessions, while most clients prefer to continue longer.
Within the first few sessions, they start to feel differently. And by six to eight sessions, many people begin to naturally think, feel, and live differently, without adding more to their ‘to-do’ list.
You move forward on your own whenever you’d like.
And you’re always welcome to pop back in if something comes up that you’d like additional support with.
-
Most clients start by meeting weekly or every other week for three months. This gives us enough consistency to understand what’s happening, work with it in real life, and help new ways of responding become more natural.
After that, you decide what feels right. Some clients continue at the same pace, others spread their sessions out, and some move forward on their own, knowing they can come back whenever they need to.
I also offer single sessions if you want support working through a specific pattern, decision, or situation without committing to ongoing coaching.
-
Sessions for individuals are 60 minutes and are available through packages or as single sessions, beginning at $140 per session. Couples coaching sessions are 90 minutes and begin at $200 per session.
Several options and price points are available, so we can find the level of support that makes sense for what you’re working through and where you are right now.
Some clients have also been able to use HSA or FSA funds for coaching, and many business owners choose to treat coaching as a professional development or wellness expense.
-
No. While many clients choose a coaching package because meaningful change usually happens over time, you don’t have to commit to a package to work with me.
We can talk about the different options available and what level of support makes the most sense for you during your complimentary session.
“Jen helped me identify what balance looks like for me and helped me define action steps to achieve better balance in my life.
She helped me learn that self-awareness requires introspection and reflection, and has helped me work on building these skills.
Jen creates accountability. I have an ally that holds me to my word and ensures goals important to me get pursued.”
~ Beth
“Jen is amazing to talk to and she draws out your inner desires and hang-ups by asking really great, thoughtful questions. Her insight is helpful but not pushy.
I’ve treasured our talks. I knew in the chaos of my days that I could count on her to bring amazing value and calm to my life.
Coaching is a good decision for everyone. Coaching with Jen is a GREAT decision.”
~ Shannon